The 46-year-old actress and founder of Goop, a natural health company, Gwyneth Paltrow expressed her sentiments on aging and beauty recently on her podcast, The Beauty Closet.
During the podcast, the Oscar-winning actress reflected on her early career in which she felt she was cast into roles that were very similar. These roles were based on her appearance and how successful she had been in the past playing similar parts.
Now that she is older, she’s had to face feelings of identity loss due to the fact that she is no longer considered “f**kable and beautiful.” The roles she played earlier in her career caused people to “cast her as something, and put [her] in a box.”
Paltrow feels that aging has really made her think about where her identity is found. She says, “To get wrinkles and, like, get closer to menopause, and all these things… what happens to your identity as a woman if you’re not f**kable and beautiful?”
It’s certainly a rhetorical question but one that many women ask themselves or struggle to answer internally. What happens when people begin to look at you differently as your appearance changes?
Well, the good news is, Gwyneth Paltrow has an answer.
A person is not to find their identity by what others think of them—focusing on the outward. Rather, it should be based on what you think about yourself. Paltrow says that being able to accept yourself, regardless of how you look, is the key to owning your identity.
Paltrow believes that a shift needs to happen in how people view themselves. “I think you get to a point where it’s almost like your sort of pulchritude (beauty) is waning in a way and your inner beauty is, like, really coming out, and so it’s this funny shift that’s happening.”
Loving yourself is a type of depression treatment. You don’t get down on yourself because of how others view you or what they say about you. ‘Luckily, what’s happening… is you just start to like yourself’, Paltrow says.